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Are We Addicted to the Idea of Perfection? by Dr. Jennifer Howard

Ring the bells that still can ringForget your perfect offering.There is a crack in everything,That’s how the light gets in.— Leonard Cohen

Watch any of the “reality” television shows starring beautiful people, and you’ll see something we cultivate in our culture: the pursuit of perfection. It’s often difficult to resist, and it’s reinforced everywhere in the media, in TV ads, magazines and newspapers. Everyone is at risk, especially women but men, too. Athletes and other performers succumb to it. These cultural messages feed the deepest insecurity in ourselves and encourage us to believe we must be something different from who we really are. We hold ourselves to an impossible standard: perfection.
It’s easy to get swept up by the fear that we just aren’t enough. We think we aren’t pretty enough, smart enough, tall enough or thin enough. For example, when we feel we aren’t enough physically, we’re compelled to diet, exercise, wax, pluck and tuck in an attempt to achieve the “perfect” look. Somewhere along the line we’ve equated the perfect butt with the perfect life.

Of course, there’s nothing wrong with grooming and taking pleasure in our appearance and presentation. Those in the public eye especially are expected to attend to their appearance. In this culture it is necessary to pay attention to what we look like if we are to successfully market ourselves or keep our jobs.

How do we balance those external expectations with the reality of our humanity? It’s important to open to our unique version of outer beauty and own who we are as individuals, embracing our unique style flaws and all. I’m sure you can think of someone who…click here to read more.

 


The Secret to Sustainable Passion by Dr. Jennifer Howard

Author, philosopher and teacher Joseph Campbell said, “Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.” I often hear that passion and enthusiasm are the fuel for success, in life and in business.

Although passion can be a gateway to success andknowing our higher purpose, it seems that many people today talk as if passion will ensure one’s success. It sounds as if they they’ve put passion…click here to read more.

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